Nancy Linnerooth: UnblockResults.com
The Long and Winding Road
My road to becoming a Procrastination Coach and EFT/Tapping Specialist who works with gifted business owners is a long and winding one. It starts with being a “gifted business owner” myself.
In the 6th grade, I was pulled out of my physics class and sent to the library to spend one hour a week with two other gifted kids. I had nothing else in common with them. We spent those hours discussing fascinating topics like “what would happen if clouds had strings hanging down to the ground.” After six months of this nonsense, I resigned from the “gifted” class, but the damage was done. I had been outed to my classmates and myself as smart and—more importantly—different. Not a good discovery for anyone approaching adolescence!
Compared to many gifted kids, my school years were easy. I had friends who seemed to understand me. Getting involved in music and theater activities kept me interested in school. And academics came easily, which is not always the case with gifted kids.
After earning my BA in English, I went directly to Harvard Law School, then became a business litigator in Chicago. And like many gifted adults, I was not content to stick with one career. So after nine years in Chicago I moved to Seattle and completed my Masters in Marriage & Family Therapy. I have practiced as a therapist for more than seventeen years. A couple of years after becoming a therapist I added a coaching practice on the side, just to keep things interesting. Then I added EFT, or “Tapping,” to help my clients get rid of the subconscious blocks that made them procrastinate. I loved applying the skills and knowledge I’d gained in law and therapy to positively change people’s lives.
When my daughter was labelled gifted in 2011, I began researching what the term “gifted” really means. Surprisingly, it wasn’t all “easy A’s” in school and success as an adult—far from it. Numerous social, emotional, academic, and occupational pitfalls challenge gifted people throughout their lives. Reading about these made my own difficulties in certain areas suddenly make sense. I also realized many of my adult clients struggled with issues caused by growing up gifted in settings that did not support their unique needs. When I asked my clients if they were labeled “gifted,” most who admitted they were treated this fact as an embarrassment.
But when I shared the documented challenges (or “curses”) of being gifted, my clients experienced great relief. They finally understood they weren’t “a freak” or “lazy” or “stupid” after all. They just have unique ways of thinking, learning, experiencing life, and undertaking tasks. And yes, they face unique challenges too. Today, my biggest joys come from helping people release their negative self-judgments and freeing them to use their true gifts to create exceptional lives and businesses. Contact me – I’ll show you how!
Rosemary Davies-Janes: Miboso.com
From Failing to Fit In To Standing Out In All the Right Ways
I’m a gifted business owner myself, and as a Master Brand Architect & Business Growth Expert, I’ve leveraged my quest to ‘find my fit’ to create a process that empowers people to ‘find their fit,’ advance their career and/or up-level their own business.
I found out I was gifted in 7th Grade. What I remember about that time was missing grammar class, the extremely odd ‘gifted’ class teacher who left us to entertain ourselves, and crafting a Ukrainian Easter egg.
Fitting in was a ‘gifted’ challenge I struggled with long before I acquired that label. As was my persistent need to do things my way. (Which was inevitably the hardest way.)
My first challenge was fitting into my family. I was adopted at birth. My parents were loving, but they often didn’t “get me.” I was and am very sensitive, a common aspect of being gifted. If I heard it once I heard it a thousand times. “Rosemary, don’t be so sensitive!”
I began my schooling in Australia at an exclusive private girls’ school where most students never even considered defying authority or breaking rules. I was the exception, but I still felt I belonged.
When I was 10 my family returned to Canada, where I was born. It felt completely foreign. My school was in a blue-collar neighborhood. The students were mostly auto-workers’ kids who treated me like an alien visiting from another planet. I was puzzled… What made me so different from these kids? More importantly, why was being different a bad thing? I struggled and flailed, then had a genius idea…
An avid reader, I decided to “try on” my favorite fictional characters personalities to find out who I had to be to fit in. Acting like trouble-making Elizabeth (from Enid Blyton’s The Naughtiest Girl in the School) earned me a succession of fights and punishments that further alienated me. Fail! Acting like kind, warm, trusting Harriet (from Jane Austen’s Emma) attracted a lot of users and some friends. Better!
The following Fall I moved to a new school—a blank canvas and a new audience—and launched my reinvented self. I found that being an “A” student was a good way to be different and attract others who were ‘good-different’ too. My art and creative writing talents were also good differences that attracted other creatives. This persona helped me fit in at school and attract smart/creative friends. It was a winner!
Memories of my effortless fit in Australia inspired me to pursue an international exchange scholarship. Imagining my true self being accepted as good-different, was irresistible. Doing so in a new country was the mother of all blank canvases. Thanks to Rotary International, I achieved my goal and attended Art College in South Africa. My experience was all I had hoped it might be, and more! Everyone I met there, “Liked me, just as I am.” (Bridget Jones Diaries)
I also learned that popularity is not about who you are. It’s about how others see you.
My new fellow art students saw me as good-different, interesting and exotic. Wow!
Upon returning to Canada I became an undergrad Psychology student, eager to add scientific insights to my personal experiences. What makes some people behave “Like this,” and others react, “Like that?” Upon graduation, I took a job at a rehabilitation hospital where I learned that helping people adjust to life-limiting injuries was not my dream. I wanted to help them soar! Overcome their limitations, not accept them.
To find work that fit me, I used my artistic skills to become a Graphic Designer and my writing skills to become a Copywriter. After mastering all of the Agency’s “creative” roles, including Creative Director, I crossed the Rubicon to join the “Suits.” (Yes, that’s Sales.) Taking on a management role at a fast growing multi-national retailer moved me to the “Client” side, and launched my corporate marketing career.
The corporate environment exposed me to an intriguing human dynamic I hadn’t seen in Agencies… an astonishing number of people “put up with” jobs they disliked, or outright hated. Their willingness to sideline their ethics, passions, and talents for a paycheck was puzzling.
Why were they willing to sacrifice so much for so little? Why were they failing to find their fit?
Their answers to these questions inspired me to reinvent the corporate branding approaches that worked so well for products… and adapt them to work equally well for people. In 1998, I left my corporate position and launched my personal branding agency committed to: “Empowering people to find their fit, realize their potential and find work they love.” I called it MIBOSO, an acronym that incorporates the first two letters of mind, body and soul. Aspects of these are incorporated into every individual and business brand I develop.
Today, I remain committed to helping people answer these life changing questions:
- “What makes me fit in?”
- “What makes me stand out – in all the right ways?”
- “How do I attract the people and opportunities I want?”
- “How do I find work I’ll love?”
Are you struggling to turn your gifted ‘curses’ into benefits? Contact me – I’ll be happy to help!